Remember that time you were feeling super-hyped after attending a seminar, watching some video, reading a post or listening to a talk that made you wanna finally take action, change direction or come up with new ideas?
More importantly, this inspiration made you feel and believe that you CAN make things happen? Your life was about to change!
And maybe somewhere in your mind, in between the doubts and fears, you know you can create all that stuff. You’ve got lots to offer and you wanna make an impact.
And for a short time, you FEEL you can do it.
‘Cuz you read about that ordinary someone who changed the world in a way, fought for a cause or persisted against all odds.
So you then attended that workshop and changed your perspective or reclaimed your super-powers.
You took notes at that webinar promising to make all your dreams come true if you just followed those 3 secret steps.
You browsed through endless pinterest boards for more creative inspiration.
You subscribed to all those email lists for even more ideas.
So your mind is bubbling away, imagining the new possibilities and opportunities that could open up. You’re full of enthusiasm, excited about your ideas and what’s to come.
You’re on fire.
But…what do you actually then DO about it?
Soon enough after that initial high, you find yourself distracted from your newly laid-out path and super-enthusiasm.
Or maybe you never took any real steps at all.
Instead you kept looking for even more inspiration.
Maybe if you just found that one ultimate source of motivation, you’d finally get off your ass and really make things happen.
Maybe the universe will will take care of it, since you’re doing so well at wishing for it and being inspired.
So if you’re sitting in front of the screen, searching for and chasing more inspiration, you’re simply deluding yourself. You’re probably using inspiration as an excuse to hold back or do nothing, subconsciously telling yourself you’re being productive.
Well – you’re really not.
Inspiration, on its own, is useless.
So what do you need if not inspiration?
You need COMMITMENT.
Are you just wishing for your dreams to come true or are you committed to making them come true?
Are you attracted to them or dedicated to them?
Are you interested or are you invested in them?
Do you desire them or are you passionate about them?
“I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose in life; therefore I demand of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action.” ~ Bruce Lee
Urgh… commitment. Sounds a bit much.
Somehow the word ‘commitment’ seems to scare off some people. Here are some reasons why:
1. It feels like you’re facing a life-sentence
Maybe it makes you think of the future ahead as some exhausting prospect that will necessarily require endless hard work, making you into some sort of prisoner or slave.
But are you not already a prisoner, feeling limited, not able to go where you wanna go? Would you rather live in a ‘prison’ of making your dreams come to life or one of regret and frustration?
2. You want it now
You don’t wanna think that far, you want the magic to happen straight away.
You give in to impatience, subconsciously thinking that if it doesn’t happen right now, at the press of a button or brought to you by deliveroo, it’s not worth focusing on or working towards..
Better spend your time on things you can enjoy now, like watching more inspiring videos, catching up on Netflix or taking a nap.
But all things take time to come to life. Would you smash an egg in the hope it will hatch?
3. You don’t know how you’re gonna get there
So what does it take to commit to your dreams or goals?
1. Make a decision
2. Have a vision
You probably DON’T know all the details of how you’re gonna get there, and that’s completely fine.
You don’t need to have it all figured out. That desire to figure it all out is a form of resistance and it’s a block.
What you DO need though, is a clear idea or vision. You’ll then learn along the way.
So imagine the results rather than exactly the exact ways you’ll get there.
And as best you can, plan what you want to do at this point NOW to take the nearest step forward.
Write it all down, make a vision board, whatever works for you. But you need to put it down somehow in a way that’s clear and visual, something you can refer back to, follow & be motivated by. Without this, you’ll find you’re doing things with no clear focus and you’d be completely wasting your time.
3. Allow overwhelm
Sometimes overwhelm is what’s holding you back.
Again, this is probably cuz you don’t know exactly how or when things will happen.
Or maybe there’s so much to do, you’d rather just forget the whole thing. Taking a nap seems much more attractive.
But this overwhelm is probably a result of over-thinking too far ahead while having a not-so-clear vision. So clarify that image, and then follow your vision-plan, but only focus on what you should be doing next – this week, today, or right about now.
Overwhelm is also a normal part of the process. It means you’re about to move forward, BIG-TIME. It means you’re gonna be learning meaningful new shit. Or that you’re being prepared for greater things.
So it may be a challenge, but instead of complaining or resigning, see it as something exciting, that’ll make you much stronger and more confident. That’s what it’s there for. You might even find that after some time you’ll be looking for more ‘overwhelming’ challenges because you know their value.
4. Allow discomfort
Maybe there are fears you’d rather avoid facing. Maybe you’re holding onto limiting beliefs or listening to negative self-talk.
But if you’re not feeling any discomfort – that’s probably cuz you’re not going anywhere.
Take discomfort as a positive sign that things are moving. Deal with whatever is in your way. Your mind will first be uncomfortable with change, but soon enough this discomfort dissolves.
Even more than disliking change, your mind loves learning! This is because it’s essentially a learning machine.
So see it as that, and your mind will then reward you with newly found or reinforced confidence and determination.
Plus, what’s more uncomfortable to you, dealing with fear or giving up on your dreams?
5. Realise every day counts
I can’t stress this enough. You DON’T need to know right now exactly how you’re gonna make it all happen or have it all worked out.
Things will begin to snowball once there’s momentum. For now, simply decide to move in that direction and be determined to deal with whatever challenges you might face.
You’re not going to do it all at once. You’ll take one step at a time. Each moment makes a difference moving you forward, and with each step you take, the next one will reveal itself more clearly.
And you can start from anywhere and anytime. So all you need each day is to decide what’s most important and urgent for that day in order to keep going. In the famous words of Tesco:
6. Stick to your plan without question
Your mind will want to argue and doubt. So be ready to get on with it even if questions or distractions come up. You don’t need to follow around the arguments in your mind.
Just let them be and keep to the plan anyway.
By doing this repetitively, you’ll be building a positive habit to keep going and you’ll be breaking mind-patterns that used to hold you back. Your mind loves habits. Your brain wants to save you energy so it much prefers the automatic mode. This is why it reverts to what it’s used to.
But you’re the one ultimately giving the instructions. So gradually, keeping to your plan without question will also turn into an automatic behaviour.
It will no longer feel like an effort but instead like simple routine.
7. Keep going
Remind yourself of your vision frequently. Despite the challenges. You’ll have breakthrough days and not so hot days, and that’s OK.
It’s OK even if you’ve wasted the last couple of days or even weeks or months. Just because you stopped for a time when you were down doesn’t mean you’ve committed to quitting. You can keep going NOW.
Accept you’ll get some waves of resistance or your mind trying to pull you back into the familiar. You might be tempted to give up while blaming different circumstances or people.
But you can turn fears, stress or hold-backs into motivators. You can reframe them by asking yourself the right questions.
Remind yourself of any small advancements you’ve already made or any small successes. Remember these all add up. Results will motivate you to keep going.
In my own life, I’ve managed to let go of stuff that was holding me back, not only because I wanted or even intended to, but because I was utterly committed and passionate about becoming free of my own prison.
I put it at the top of my priority list and kept refocusing myself on my end results.
I didn’t know exactly how or when I’d achieve them, but it didn’t matter. I knew that by sticking to it and making that next small move, the road will keep revealing itself.
With clients coming to my hypnosis or coaching practice, there’s a clear difference between those who just wish to achieve their goals and those who are fully committed to making that happen.
Guess who makes the quicker progress and lasting shifts…?
It’s such a joy working with those who throw themselves completely into the process. Those who get the results they’re after, cuz they’ve invested not just their money, but themselves.
So again – be completely honest with yourself…
Are you just wishing for your dreams to come true or are you committed to them coming true? Are you attracted or dedicated to them? Are you interested or invested in them? Do you desire or are you passionate about them?
“One Day, or Day One, you decide.” ~ Paulo Coelho
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